Comments on: The Friend Zone http://atouchofmelancholy.com/blog/index.php/2008/03/the-friend-zone/ a symphony of rants and raves Mon, 15 Nov 2010 06:21:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: melancholiac http://atouchofmelancholy.com/blog/index.php/2008/03/the-friend-zone/comment-page-1/#comment-5 melancholiac Sat, 29 Mar 2008 19:49:51 +0000 http://melancholiac.wordpress.com/?p=54#comment-5 Thank you zadockfowl, you know, everything is always easier said than done when it comes to being honest with how you feel about something, especially on matters that could practically change your life. I have been through the same situation myself, and it most definitely does apply both ways. I do agree that it is difficult to do the first step, but when you weigh what you could possibly gain compared to what you could potentially lose, it really is an easy choice. The problem really lies on how you perceive the situation you are in. If there are instances that friendships are actually lost because someone chose to disappear after hearing an admission, maybe the friendship wasn't really strong enough to begin with to merit such a reaction. If you truly were friends, whether or not you feel the same way, the friendship you both have should and will always remain. And the guys you speak of who never take that step? I'm sure they regret it every single day they see 'their' girl with someone else... because it could very well have been them. I hope you aren't in this situation, but if you are, I truly hope you were able to do something about it! Life is way too short to waste on what-could-have-been's :) Thank you zadockfowl, you know, everything is always easier said than done when it comes to being honest with how you feel about something, especially on matters that could practically change your life. I have been through the same situation myself, and it most definitely does apply both ways. I do agree that it is difficult to do the first step, but when you weigh what you could possibly gain compared to what you could potentially lose, it really is an easy choice. The problem really lies on how you perceive the situation you are in.

If there are instances that friendships are actually lost because someone chose to disappear after hearing an admission, maybe the friendship wasn’t really strong enough to begin with to merit such a reaction. If you truly were friends, whether or not you feel the same way, the friendship you both have should and will always remain. And the guys you speak of who never take that step? I’m sure they regret it every single day they see ‘their’ girl with someone else… because it could very well have been them.

I hope you aren’t in this situation, but if you are, I truly hope you were able to do something about it! Life is way too short to waste on what-could-have-been’s :)

]]> By: zadockfowl http://atouchofmelancholy.com/blog/index.php/2008/03/the-friend-zone/comment-page-1/#comment-4 zadockfowl Sat, 29 Mar 2008 15:34:02 +0000 http://melancholiac.wordpress.com/?p=54#comment-4 That is a beautiful quote and I agree with it and your opinion wholeheartedly, but then again perhaps it's all easier to say when you already have someone. Just to clarify, you speak in terms of the girl losing the guy, but are you implying it both ways? I know so many guys who never had the courage to step forward themselves. That is a beautiful quote and I agree with it and your opinion wholeheartedly, but then again perhaps it’s all easier to say when you already have someone. Just to clarify, you speak in terms of the girl losing the guy, but are you implying it both ways? I know so many guys who never had the courage to step forward themselves.

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